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I try to make a few things differently in 2025. Year.
Specifically, moving towards moments or things that make me uncomfortable.
(I don’t mean “times I’m in physical danger”, of course.)
But I’d rather run toward The things that my brain tells me: “This is embarrassing, I don’t like this, avoid it at all costs.”
E-mail I’m scared to open. I’m afraid to have a look. I am afraid to ask. The ability to be alone with my thoughts (yikes).
When I reach for the phone or Netflix or a reproductive controller not to happen boring or uncomfortable or sad or wrong …
I try to build some discipline to stop first.
Not to avoid, distract or have fun from what is really happening.
Not to go out or not escape, Monty-Python Style.
If I have the courage to sit there and I really ask a question, “Why does that seem uncomfortable to me?” There are valuable lessons to learn.
Lean in discomfort
The author Pema Chodron exposes the following in his book When things fall apart:
“Unfortunately in any form we consider bad news.
… feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, indignation, anger, jealousy and fear.
Instead of being bad news, these are actually very clear moments that teach us where we reserve. “
These things can be amazing teachers if we give ourselves to learn.
But that is quite asking in 2025. Years:
Thanks to the Internet and our phones and the Eastern delivery, we can spend every minute of each day hiding from almost every unpleasant feeling in our lives. We never have to be boring, we never have to feel “bad”, we never need to contact an elephant in the room.
We can only cross, click, tap, or deviate to avoid all and all “bad” feelings.
We can hide from them endless entertainment and comfort (even if we keep us to get what we really want).
Of course, these bad feelings don’t disappear – there are still there and things we avoid in the end will need to deal with.
When I try to hide from discomfort, I know I’m not really avoiding him. I don’t hold it in a box.
I’m Trapped in Pandora’s box with monsters.
Blaise Pascal, Philosopher from the 17th century, said the best:
“All humanities arise from the man’s inability to sit quietly in the room.”
These feelings try to learn us!
Many feelings of discomfort screaming to teach us something if we can recomify us how we feel about them.
As Chodron expires:
“They are like a messenger that show us, with intimidate clarity, exactly where we are stuck.
This moment is the perfect teacher, and happy for us, with us wherever we are. “
Life has a way to do it calm, unpleasant feeling Get louder and louder until we can’t help, but don’t solve it …
But we can save yourself quite a little time if we recognize fear, lean before, and recognize life trying to teach us something.
It’s my challenge for you this week.
What if …
We Let’s get bored?
We asked: “Am I real Hungry, or I’m just soothing with food? “
We acknowledged that we were scared or anxious or nervous, then asked (with compassionate curiosity) What was behind the feeling?
Life tries to teach us lessons.
We just have to be brave enough to be embarrassed to see it.
-The way
