Why do you need a lot of why

Peter Barton entrepreneur was on top of the world.

Until he was.

Barton lived life everyone dreamed of everyone, quite well looked after himself, and he was a great husband and Dad to his family.

And then in one fellow day his world was broken:

Diagnosis of terminal cancer.

The work became less important, other experiences ceased to keep the meaning; He tried to pick up the pieces as he mourning the future, he couldn’t live. He couldn’t see how his children grow up or grow old with his wife.

Barton shared these thoughts and experiences in an absolutely heart book called Not fading, And one passage always got stuck with me.

One day, Peter’s body was destroyed, he is subject to cancer, painful and his spirit was lower than ever. Defeated, he said to his retaining wife:

“I just don’t see the point.”

She replied, “So find him.”

Finding the point has become a point.

Barton got a life sentence and decided to “find life” by writing a book his children could read. The book that other people could read and analyze the meaning in his life.

I was thinking about “the invention of the point became a point” while revising another of my favorite books, inspired by the recent episode of my friend Bretty McKay The art of masculinity podcast.

Man’s search

Victor Frankl was the survivor of the Holocaust, psychotherapist and a creator of the type of therapy called “logotherapy”.

After surviving the horror of Auschwitz and other concentration camps, he wrote the first draft for his book, Man’s search, For nine days.

He planned to publish him anonymously, but in the last second he was convinced that he had attached his name to add some weight to his story to survive.

Since then, he has continued to sell 16+ million copies and translated into 50+ languages.

Franklova School Think, logotherapy, it was built around the idea that “the meaning of life is to find a sense of life for each individual. Often references Nietzsche’s famous saying:

“He who has why he lives can handle almost any way.”

Through this book, Frankl explains his thoughts and thinking about life while watching thousands of people die or kill.

What is the most impressive in this short book, Frankl’s ability to find meaning and hope for humanity in the middle of one of the worst human crimes ever committed.

The second half of the book dive deeper into “logotherapy”, encouraging us to find our specific “meaning”.

“The meaning of life is different from man to man, from day to day and from hour to hour.

> What is important, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general, but the specific meaning of the person’s life in a given moment. “

You may not be diagnosed with terminal cancer, nor suffer from the crimes of a concentration camp.

But there was probably the point in your life you ask, “Why the hell do I do what I do?”

We could think I ask the question means something is wrong with us. Not to live in a moment. That we need help.

Frankl feels differently. He believes that the appointment is critical and healthy:

“The biggest task of any person is to find meaning in your life.”

What if there was an unpleasant conversation with you actually part of the process?

What if you ask if the question was a point?

Your “big why”

We speak a lot about “What’s great to you why?” Here in the Nerd Fitness Rebellion.

If we think logically about it, we try to make us work We are not wired (or needed) to work.

Of course We don’t want to burn extra calories, get up early to exercise and avoid filling our facial food.

It requires additional effort, we need to feel hungry, we need to change our behavior. And our brain don’t want any of that!

This may not be “the meaning of life” of things … but it is a really strong reminder to help us stay consistent when life will give us anything else, but consistency:

• Why are we going to get up at 5 in the morning and go for a walk when it’s cold outside?
• Why do we say that on salads and skinny protein when there are cookies and donuts?
• Why are we sweating (gross) and pick up weights (uncomfortable)?
• Why are we making the strength to breathe and run 5k or say that class yoga where we feel deeply self-conscious?

We talk about it a lot about it Our trainer clients and members NF community:

Have a constant reminder of Why We are often doing this we can be a thing that keeps us on the trail during the most difficult moments after the motivation was carried:

We may want to break the generational cycle of unhealthy food relationships we have learned from our parents.

Maybe we want our children to see that we can be a strong mom, that it’s okay to sweat and push ourselves.

Maybe we want to feel better in yourself when we look in the mirror or know that we always feel better afterwards Training than we felt beforeExercise?

Your challenge this week is to ask yourself why you are here:

• Why are you willing to go through unpleasant thoughts and feelings that come with change?
• Why are you ready to try to learn a new skill or customize how do you eat?
• Why are you willing to get up early and spend less time on the couch?

Continue further than your reasons. Continue to ask “Why” and see what comes out.

Write him down.

Put it on the post-IT note and paste it on the refrigerator, a mirror bathroom, automatic dashboard.

-The way

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