China has millions of single men

To say that women in China are superior would be an underestimation.

With the stunning 30 million more men than women, one of the most populated countries in the world has a flood of untouched men.

The odds are highly arranged against them, finding a meeting, let alone a woman – something that many feel pressed to do.

To make things worse, it is even more difficult if you are a smaller social class, according to the Chinese dating coach Hao, who has over 3000 customers.

“Most of them are a working class – they are the least likely to find wives,” he says.

We see this first -hand in the documentary of Violet du Feng, The Dating Game, where we watch Hao and three of his customers throughout his weekly dating camp.

All of them, including Hao, came from poor, rural origin and were part of the generation growing after the 90 in China, when many parents left their young children with other family members, to go and work in the cities.

This generation is now adults and they go to the cities themselves to try to find a spouse and strengthen their status.

Du Fun, which is based in the US, wants her film to emphasize what life is for the younger generations in her homeland.

“At a time when gender division is so extreme, especially in China, it’s about how we can overcome a precipice and create a dialogue,” she told the BBC.

The three clients of Hao – Li, 24, WU, 27 and Zhou, 36 – are fighting the consequences of China’s policy for one child.

Created by the government in 1980, when the population approached a billion, the policy was introduced against the background of fears that the presence of too many people would affect the country’s economic growth.

But The traditional preference for children of men has led to A large number of girls are abandoned, placed in orphanages, selective abortions or even cases of female infantile. The result is the huge sexual imbalance of today.

China is now so concerned about reducing the birth rate and aging population that it has completed policy in 2016 and holds regular events for matches.

Wu, Li and Zhou want Hao to help them find a girlfriend at least.

He is a person who can strive to be after they have already been able to find a wife Ven, who is also a dating coach.

Men leave Hao to transform them and hairstyles as he tells them their dubious “techniques” to attract women – both online and personally.

But while everyone is trying best, not everything goes according to plan.

Hao designs an online image for every man, but he is stretching several boundaries in how he describes them, and Zhou thinks he feels “fake”.

“I feel guilty of misleading others,” he says, apparently uncomfortable to be presented as someone he cannot really match.

Du Feng believes this is a wider problem.

“This is a unique story of China, but it is also a universal story about how in this digital landscape we all fight and fight the price of being fake in the digital world, and then the price we have to pay to be authentic and honest,” she says.

Hao may be one of the most popular dating coaches in China, but we see his wife question some of his methods.

Unalhened, he sends his proto to meet women, spraying his armpits with a deodorant, saying: “This is time!”

Men should approach potential dates at a busy night shopping center in Chongqing, one of the largest cities in the world.

It is almost painful to watch while asking women to connect through the WeChat message app.

But this teaches them to dig into their inner confidence, which has so far been hidden from the view.

Dr. John, from the National University of the Singapore Department of Sociology, tells the BBC how the pressure to marry can influence single men.

“In China, marriage or ability, financially and socially, to marry as a major carrier of possession, is still largely expected by men,” she says.

“As a result, the difficulty of being considered a marriage can be a social stigma, which shows that they are not capable and deserve the role, which leads to great pressure and mental tension.”

Zhou is humiliated how much dates cost him, including paying for matchmakers, dinner and new clothes.

“I only make $ 600 (£ 440) a month,” he says, noting that the date costs about $ 300.

“In the end, our fate is determined by society,” he adds, deciding that he should “build my status.”

Du Feng explains: “This is a generation in which many of these superfluous men are defined as failure due to their economic status.

“They are regarded as the bottom of society, the working class, so they somehow marry another indicator that they can succeed.”

We learn that one of the ways for men in China to “break the social class” is to join the army and see a great recruitment that takes place in the film.

The film does not specially explore what life is like for gay men in China.

Du Feng agrees that Chines society less accepts gay men, while adding to him: “In China, heteronarmation is largely rules.

“Therefore, men are expected to marry women to comply with the norms … to support the nuclear family and to develop them into bigger families by becoming parents.”

The technology also includes a documentary that explores the growing popularity of virtual boyfriends, saying that over 10 million women in China are playing online dating games.

We will even see a virtual boyfriend in action – he understands, not demanding and undeniably beautiful.

A woman says that the cost of dating in real life “Time, money, emotional energy – is so exhausting.”

She adds that “virtual men are different – they have great temperaments, they are just perfect.”

He sees this trend as “indicative of social problems” in China, citing “long working hours, greedy working culture and competitive environment, along with rooted expectations for the role of gender.”

“Virtual boyfriends that can behave better in line with the expected ideals of women can be a way to fulfill their romantic imaginations.”

Du Feng adds: “The thing that is mentioned is that women with virtual boyfriends think men in China are not emotionally stable.”

Her film digs in male origin, including their often broken relationships with their parents and families.

“These men come from this and there is so much negative pressure on them – how can you expect them to be stable emotionally?”

Reuters reported last year This “long-term lifestyle is gradually becoming more widespread in China.”

“I’m worried about connecting each other nowadays, especially the younger generation,” says Du Feng.

“Dating is just a device for us to talk about it. But I’m really worried.

“My movie is about how we live in this epidemic of loneliness, and we all try to find relationships with each other.”

So, by the end of the documentary, which has many comic moments, we see that it is something like a realistic self -disclosure journey for all men, including Hao.

“I think it is about warmth while they are, knowing that this is a collective crisis that everyone is facing and how they still find hope,” says Du Feng.

“It’s more about finding themselves and finding someone to pat their shoulders, saying,” I see you, and there is a way to do it. “

The Alan on the Daily Daily screen says The film is “maintained by humanity that Du Feng finds in each of the people we get to know and understand a little better”, adding it “ultimately congratulates the virtue of being true to yourself.”

Hao concludes: “Once you like it, it’s easier to make the girls like you.”

The dating game is in selected filmmakers from the United Kingdom this fall.